“Be fluid, be like water, and flow around the obstacles.” Chock Kok
Random day’s wisdom lesson that will last a life time.
Most recently, my life-long friend taught me an unexpected and valuable lesson.
It was a casual Sunday. My family and parents-in-law went out to dine at our favorite Turkish place. The only reason we know about that yummy restaurant is due to my friend’s recommendation. If we come there, we come together with her. This is a decade long tradition. It’s a given, that residing only 5 minutes away, this place, which by the way offers many healthy and delicious salads, would be her first choice.
This time, I reluctantly didn’t mention our arrival, thinking there was no time to discuss the arrangements and speculating she will want to spend time with her own parents, not ours…Admittedly, I didn’t think this through.
What was most uncomfortable is that her family and ours surprisingly or not so surprisingly stumbled across with each other at dinner.
Everyone felt awkward and confused. I came to her table to say “Hi” and explain what I thought. To my surprise, she was not upset and on the contrary was extremely friendly.
Next day, I still felt uneasy and called to apologize for creating the awkward situation.
Her answer to me was this: “Be like Water”. “Let go of anything that prevents you from moving on.” “I am past yesterday and you should be, too.” “All is well”.
This phrase shocked and enlightened me! Not only did my friend not harbor negative feelings towards me, she urged me to forgive and forget the trespasses of others. It was so simple, obvious and made perfect sense. It caused me to reconsider my stiffness in various life situations.
Isn’t this simple? Forget what does not serve you and be like a body of water. Flow around obstacles, don’t get stuck, move on and let the negative congestion dissolve.
From that point on, I flow. I give people the benefit of the doubt. I consciously tell myself to not judge, and I stopped making assumptions that led to negative feelings and confusion. Thanks to the wisdom of my true friend, Elena Bensonoff at Wholistic.com, I feel free.
With Gratitude and passing it forward.
Till next time.
Luda, at PlantsandBeyond.com