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The Witch is In

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Not their Mommy, but a Witch. This is what my dear teenagers call me when I am writing, creating and working on my new blog.

It is Autumn, but not quite the festive end of October Halloween Holliday yet. My increasingly annoyed and bored kids are placing Witch signs all over my office.

“Mom”………………

“Moom”………………

“MOOOOM”………………

They try to get my attention, in vain.

Boredom is healing for hardworking school students, I contemplate. Monotony makes you think of imaginative ways of turning your precious free time into actual FUN. You, my darling mouthy teenagers, are wholeheartedly enjoying your sunny weekend days, DOING NOTHING. Too bad, you can’t recognize how fortunate you are to live in the moment.

Your Mom, for example, reestablished her lifelong passion for writing and turned it into a new way of Blogging. It takes time, focus, perseverance and untangling of multiple thoughts to chronologically type them out on a blank screen. Its pure satisfaction to create something out of nothing and motivate others.

“Go write your own blog”, I tell them. They pout, roll their eyes, get into my face, demand attention and snicker at my new occupation. Deep down inside, it is nice to discern their craving for my company. I bet they especially miss:

  • The personal servant Mom,
  • The cook from scratch Mom,
  • The waiter Mom
  • The entertainer Mom,
  • Leg rest cushion, movie watching Mom,
  • Foot massage Mom
  • Instant playdate friend Mom,
  • Cleaning lady Mom,
  • Clothes washing Mom,
  • Taxi driver Mom
  • Slave Mom

When I try to finish typing my thoughts, they breathe heavily down my neck in an angry stupor. Shake my chair, bang on the table and make strange distracting noises. Nevertheless, I zero in on my pressing task and finish it. Amazed at my own ability to focus, I finally turn to them. The punch line of my 13-year-old daughter’s frustration makes me smile – in just one corner of my mouth, not for long, though.

I have been hastily warned on her stormy way away: “Mother, you are running a risk of becoming one of those absent parents, with whom kids don’t want to spend any time. Mark my words, it will happen to you.”

Hmmmm.  That made me ponder of losing the future connection with my own kids. Prior to my intrigued feelings getting out of order, the rational settled in.  Perhaps, as a seasoned Mom, I missed teaching them one vital life lesson. The missed epiphany message to kids: it’s actually all right to spend time on yourself. Instead of neglecting yourselves, look at it as a part of self-nourishment, mental recharge, and healing. Until recently, doing something for myself was a completely a foreign concept. Hibernating Florida Summer Garden made my creative energy efforts spill onto paper, rather than the living soil.  For now, I will try to lead by example, even if my consequences are the dissatisfied glances and comments of demanding family members.

How about this, dear children:

  • Watch your Witch Mom do what she loves
  • Help your family with daily chores when parents are busy
  • Put away all your electronics and read a book for a change
  • Call your grandparents and reach out to your friends
  • Walk and play with the dogs
  • Cook and serve your own food to yourselves

In the meanwhile, when the evening settles in and the writing goals are met, your very own Mommy Witch will happily cuddle with you lovingly and gently, while, watching a movie at the end of the day. I will sweetly tuck you in and softly sing you a good night song. After all, I am still here, bewitching you into your adulthood.

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With love, self-care, and sprinkle of some magic,

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Luda@PlantsandBeyond🌱

All photographs belong to Luda @PlantsandBeyond.com

24 thoughts on “The Witch is In

  1. Haha… Oh so loved this Luda.. so brought back those teenage years of my own children.. Who when they were focused upon their activities couldn’t give a monkey’s about there parents as they spoke to empty walls.. lol..
    And so smiled at your paragraph” Watch your Witch Mom do what she loves
    Help your family with daily chores when parents are busy
    Put away all your electronics and read a book for a change
    Call your grandparents and reach out to your friends
    Walk and play with the dogs
    Cook and serve your own food to yourselves”

    My Son is 42 my daughter two years younger.. I remind him when he expects so much from our granddaughter who is 6. I say to him and what did you do aged 6??? And I become the wicked witch …
    Loved it.. ❤ and your lovely Halloween props.. brilliant xxx

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    1. Oh my Goodness, Sue. So happy to get your response and trully appreciate the support. Mine are acting out right now, screaming at me.. well, the slave is not available anymore . Hahaha. Bittersweet feeling, but makes me venture out into self -care … such a strange and weird concept and yet liberating 🙂 And I am so surprised you are a Grandma!! Haha-you, too, the wicked witch…Oh my….Shaking my head. We do not deserve this…

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  2. You just wrote what I feel. I have the same sign, except I can flip the sign from ‘in’ to ‘out.’ I would add Sherpa Mom to the list (because we pack and tote all of their things and always have tissues, allergy medicine, extra sweatshirt in the car) and ATM Mom.M does chores but not on my timeline (I have to compromise). But I absolutely love this post.
    we miss you! Mary

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    1. Mary, this amazing comment came from an accomplished writer? OMG. Thank you so much for making my morning. Yes to Sherpa-no space in car-packed with their stuff….ATM-rediculous. Lately, I started saying you spend your own $$$ on candy, bath products and maybe, just maybe you can treat your parents to the movies, for a change? Ughm… right … that is where it stops. Hahaha. Miss you and sure hope to see you in Florida, at least. Are you coming here anytime soon?

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  3. Hahaha! I am so with you on this my mom friend and blog friend! You gave words to something that I never took the time for. I have said it to myself numerous times – that I am probably role modeling good Self love and care, hope it is enough to compensate for not being a really great mom they could have had LOL

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    1. Pragalbha, so happy to hear from you. This is kind of new to me, saying “no” to kids, but it will have to do from now on. Thank you for your support, as a Mommy. Self-care sure is a new revelation to me and nice to witness for anyone, especially being a parent. Phew…..off to carpool :))))))

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  4. Oh my my! I love this post but especially “Put away all your electronics and read a book for a change” and I would add, “Answer immediately when Mom calls you without any excuse 😀 😀 😀

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  5. Bwahahahaha!!! Loved this! By the way, I was a stay-at-home Dad for a year-and-a-half… and HOLY CREATION & ALL THE STARS IN IT, that was the HARDEST freakin’ job I’ve EVER done in my life!!! 😮 😵

    Never again, as long as my lungs have breath, will I NOT bow down in humble admiration to ALL mothers who stay at home all day or manage the entire homestead, including all the crazy Munchkins runnin’ around like ducklings and water-skipping lizards that DEMAND Mom’s exquisite expertise!!! 😌🙏

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      1. Well, if that man doesn’t, you let me know! I’ll quickly make a voodoo-doll of him with a poofy blouse, tight skirt, hose, lipstick, and high-heels and do unspeakable things to it/him if he doesn’t whip into shape!!! 💄 😛

        Seriously though, the pleasure is returned. You have gorgeous plants!

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