Not their Mommy, but a Witch. This is what my dear teenagers call me when I am writing, creating and working on my blog posts.
It is Autumn, but not quite the festive end of October Halloween Holliday yet. My increasingly annoyed and bored kids are placing Witch signs all over my office.
“Mom”………………
“Moom”………………
“MOOOOM”………………
They try to get my attention, in vain.
Boredom is healing for hardworking school students, I contemplate. Monotony makes you think of imaginative ways of turning your precious free time into actual FUN. You, my darling mouthy teenagers, are wholeheartedly enjoying your sunny weekend days, DOING NOTHING. Too bad, you can’t recognize how fortunate you are to live in the moment.
Your Mom, for example, reestablished her lifelong passion for writing and turned it into a new way of Blogging. It takes time, focus, perseverance and untangling of multiple thoughts to chronologically type them out on a blank screen. Its pure satisfaction to create something out of nothing and motivate others.
“Go write your own blog”, I tell them. They pout, roll their eyes, get into my face, demand attention and snicker at my new occupation. Deep down inside, it is nice to discern their craving for my company. I bet they especially miss:
- The personal servant Mom,
- The cook from scratch Mom,
- The waiter Mom
- The entertainer Mom,
- Leg rest cushion, movie watching Mom,
- Foot massage Mom
- Instant playdate friend Mom,
- Cleaning lady Mom,
- Clothes washing Mom,
- Taxi driver Mom
- Slave Mom
When I try to finish typing my thoughts, they breathe heavily down my neck in an angry stupor. Shake my chair, bang on the table and make strange distracting noises. Nevertheless, I zero in on my pressing task and finish it. Amazed at my own ability to focus, I finally turn to them. The punch line of my 13-year-old daughter’s frustration makes me smile – in just one corner of my mouth, not for long, though.
I have been hastily warned on her stormy way away: “Mother, you are running a risk of becoming one of those absent parents, with whom kids don’t want to spend any time. Mark my words, it will happen to you.”
Hmmmm. That made me ponder of losing the future connection with my own kids. Prior to my intrigued feelings getting out of order, the rational settled in. Perhaps, as a seasoned Mom, I missed teaching them one vital life lesson. The missed epiphany message to kids: it’s actually all right to spend time on yourself. Instead of neglecting yourselves, look at it as a part of self-nourishment, mental recharge, and healing. Until recently, doing something for myself was a completely a foreign concept. Hibernating Florida Summer Garden made my creative energy efforts spill onto paper, rather than the living soil. For now, I will try to lead by example, even if my consequences are the dissatisfied glances and comments of demanding family members.
How about this, dear children:
- Watch your Witch Mom do what she loves
- Help your family with daily chores when parents are busy
- Put away all your electronics and read a book for a change
- Call your grandparents and reach out to your friends
- Walk and play with the dogs
- Cook and serve your own food to yourselves
In the meanwhile, when the evening settles in and the writing goals are met, your very own Mommy Witch will happily cuddle with you lovingly and gently, while, watching a movie at the end of the day. I will sweetly tuck you in and softly sing you a good night song. After all, I am still here, bewitching you into your adulthood.
With love, self-care, and a sprinkle of some magic,
Have a great day, my dear friends.
Luda@PlantsandBeyond🌱
All photographs belong to Luda @PlantsandBeyond.com
You are indeed a super mom!!🤗👍☺
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Thank you GH. Don’t know about super or good mom. I am trying hard…
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Being a mom is a thankless task if your children after growing up, ignores or neglects you. But once they appreciate you then in old age you will be blessed as their love surrounds you.
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Yes, hope they appreciate something…. thank you GH. You are an amazing daughter and a good example to us all.
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I am sure your children will shower you with their love. Blessings. And much love. 💕🤗
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And you toooooooo GH
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How appropriate is your message to your children so much filled with a combination of love and irony, as we are approaching Halloween! I like that last sentence in your well crafted post: bewitching into adulthood. Have a great day, Luda!
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Thank you dear Peter. Your kind comment means a lot to me.
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Good for you Luda, I’m sure they’ll be happier with a fulfilled mom and it will teach them a good lesson for the future! Enjoy making your magic 🙂
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I hope so. May be they will remember me happier that way, when they are in the same position 🙂 Thank you dear Andrea for your visit and comment
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Nice one.
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Kids always want to be at the center of their mother’s attention, naturally. It’s a survival mechanism! 😉
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I guess… sometimes its taxing…thank you Eliza for your comment
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Hehe, I have a 20-something that still wants to be the center of my attention! 😀
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Lol😆💐
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What a great post, Luda! ❤ 🙂 You are amazing magic mom! 🙂 Have a great day and week, Luda!
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Ha, well, at least I get the positive from friends. Thank you Vero. Have an amazing week as well
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That counts as well! 😊💕
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🤗😘🤗
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So Sweet!!
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Xoxoxoxo
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hehehe love this post Luda 🙂
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AMEN!!!!! 🙂
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Thank you, SunnySide.
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Mothers understand! 🙂
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You have to make sure they learn to respect the time you need for yourself or slave we do become. Amusing post Luda and love the photos.
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I was learning the hard way for many years. Just now dawning on me how I have neglected myself. Thank you, dear Nanette for your support.
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I neglected myself too and was forced to do so. You must set your boundaries this is your life too.
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🤗🌿❣️🌷❣️🌿😊
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Reblogged this on Rattiesforeverworldpresscom.
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Awww, Love and Light to you, Rattie. You are so kind to me. Thank you!
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Hugs ❤
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I truly enjoyed the post and agree with you 🙂 My boys and I too have realized the importance of my personal happiness and how some things are important to me.
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Ahhh, happy to hear fellow Mom’s support. Thank you, Pragalba. This understanding came much later in life for me, but I guess better late than never.
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Ah… but are you a good witch or a bad witch? … And tell those munchkins that they better watch what they call you! 🙂
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Hahahaha-I love this, Tom. Quite funny. Didn’t think of that at all. LOL. Let me think about the mutation here. I think I start out very good… and gradually morph into the bad one…don’t you love my self criticism? :)))))))))
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ahahahaha I couldn’t help but laugh through this whole thing. Ahhhh the memories it brings back of when my son was a little one 🙂
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LOL, thank you sweet Margaret :))))))))))))))))))))))
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You are most welcome 🙂
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Love it Luda! Happy Halloween!
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🤗👍🏻🌸 thank you, Lilly 🌷✨🌷
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Great sense of humor! I so enjoyed reading!
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Awww- thank you, Nancy 😜🌷❣️
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wonderful post !
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I think it’s part of growing up to learn that not everything revolves around us. We all had to go through and accept that experience.
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I guess I never experienced what we give to modern generation and learn every day, along with the kids . Thank you, dear Tanja for your input.
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I seriously think my daughter says “ mom” just for the sake of saying the words and sometimes I feel like that if I hear it one more time I could kill myself🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Hahaha ! And when try her older they do this louder and intentionally on purpose. Momomomom… ughhhh🤗 you are so funny, O!
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“Mmm mama”,that the start of any sentence my youngest speaks ….I’m starting to believe is s nervous tic🙄🤣
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Toooooo funnny ;)😂
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Great post❤️
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Cute !
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Thank you
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